Crumbs of Joy

Written by Bex & Laura - with Charla Grant

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June 13, 2025

Let’s talk gratitude – but not in the ‘you should be grateful’ way that so often makes us feel small or guilty.

Gratitude is having a bit of a moment these days, but like self-care, it’s often misunderstood. It’s not about forcing yourself to feel thankful for things just because you should. That kind of thinking – “why can’t I just be grateful for what I have?” or “at least I still have X”- can actually stir up feelings of shame, and make grief or frustration feel even more isolating.

At The Worst Girl Gang Ever, we like to approach gratitude differently…

Meet the ‘Crumbs of Joy’ 🍪

This beautiful concept was shared with us by our amazing gratitude coach, Charla Grant, and it’s stuck with us ever since.

Crumbs of joy are tiny moments in the day that spark a little warmth or lightness. A hot cup of tea in your favourite mug. Sunlight dancing through the trees. That one song that always makes you smile. A dog trotting past with a stick twice its size.

Individually, these things might not feel life-changing. But when you gather them – when you really notice them – you begin to build something bigger. Over time, those crumbs become a biscuit. And that biscuit? It becomes something you can reach for when things feel heavy.

A crumb challenge:

Start gathering your crumbs.
Each day, look for one or two moments that bring you a spark of joy, peace, or warmth. Say them out loud. Write them down. Soak them in. Let your mind file them away as proof that joy still exists, even when things are hard.

📄 Resources to Explore:

Crumbs of Joy – gentle prompts to help you start spotting those moments

Crumbs of Joy

Crumbs of Joy Worksheet

Gratitude Jar Activity – a fun and tangible way to collect your joys over tim

Gratitude_Jar

Colorful candy jar decorated with bow ribbon against blue background, gifts for Birthday or Easter

🎧 Podcast with Charla:

Apple Podcasts
Spotify
Hear Charla share her story and the heart behind The Grateful Hearts Club.

This is not about ignoring pain or glossing over the hard stuff. It’s about allowing room for both- grief and gratitude, sorrow and sweetness. One doesn’t cancel out the other.

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