Sex and trying to conceive

Written by Bex & Laura with Louisa MacInnes, sex and relationship coach

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June 16, 2025

Sex can get really complicated when you’re trying to conceive or after loss. It stops being just about connection and starts feeling like a task with too much riding (if you’ll pardon the pun) on it. Some days you’re both exhausted, worried, or hurting in ways you can’t even explain.

The grief sits heavy, the pressure sneaks in, and suddenly something that used to bring you close feels distant. It’s ok to feel all of that. You’re not failing.

Be gentle with each other, take the space you need, and remember that intimacy isn’t always about sex. You’re carrying a lot, and you’re allowed to find your own way back.

This resource with our awesome sex and relationship coach Louisa MacInnes is all about reconnecting with yourself and your partner ❤️

An introduction to sex therapy

Connecting back to you

Video 1 resource 👇

Connecting back to you

Communication

Video 2 resource 👇

Communication

Intimacy outside the bedroom

Video 3 resource 👇

Reconnecting outside the bedroom

Rebuilding sexual intimacy

Video 4 resource 👇

Rebuilding sexual chemistry

Louisa is a certified Sex and Relationship coach, and somatic sex educator. Her mission is to reconnect people with themselves, and with others. Both in and outside of the bedroom.

https://louisamacinnes.com/

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