Trying to conceive and your wellbeing

Written by Bex & Laura with Nicola Headley - fertility coach

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June 16, 2025

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The journey of TTC can be a real rollercoaster for anyone, let alone those in this community who have struggled with loss and infertility.

For many, the whole process is debilitating, we feel completely at the mercy of our cycle, we obsessively take OPK (ovulation prediction kits) and spend a fortune every month on pregnancy tests, viewing them with squinting eyes, and in different lights before angrily throwing them away, only to retrieve them 20 minutes later for ‘one last check’

If you can identify with this, this could be the resource for you.

We hope that you will learn how to be a little more peaceful during your cycle and potentially curb some of that obsessive behaviour (or at least temper it!)

An introduction to Nicola Headley, our wonderful fertility coach.

Journaling

Journaling is your weapon when everything else feels like it’s spiraling. You can’t control your cycle. You can’t control the timing. You can’t control your body doing what it’s supposed to. But you can take that mess of frustration, rage, sadness, and slap it onto paper. You own that part.

Writing it down stops it swirling in your head, haunting you every moment your mind is not occupied. When you journal, you see it in black and white. You name it. That fear that you’re broken? Write it. That anger at everyone getting pregnant by accident? Write it. That stupid hope that hurts every time? Write it.

Journaling doesn’t fix your hormones or the endless waiting. But it stops the storm from eating you alive. It gives you space to scream silently without needing to justify anything to anyone. It’s your place where you don’t have to be positive, patient or polite. It doesn’t have to be rational, justified or even make sense!

Get yourself a fancy new pen and notepad (who doesn’t love stationery shopping?!) and have a read through the guide, the prompts and the morning pages.

Journalling guide

The Morning Pages

Nicola – Journaling prompts

Doing all the things

Here Nicola suggests some tips to reduce the overwhelm when trying to conceive.

Meditations

Meditation is like that friend who doesn’t bring more advice, just a cup of tea and a chance to breathe. While you’re busy tracking, testing and timing, your body is quietly begging for a little calm. Stress hormones? Meditation helps keep them in check. Racing thoughts at 2am? Meditation says: not today, mate.

It’s not about magically boosting fertility overnight, but about creating the best conditions for your body to do its thing. Plus, let’s be honest, anything that will help you not bite your partner’s head off during the two-week wait is worth an explore.

Below are two of Nicola’s beautiful, relaxing meditations, to help connect back to you – remember, you’ve got this, and we’ve got you.

Hillside Healing